My scheduled work week looks like this, and in theory I should be working 2.5 days in the week…
Monday – work day
Tuesday – half day at work
Wednesday – day off
Thursday – work day
Friday – day off
Saturday / Sunday – weekend
…the reality of my working week, and day, is somewhat different…
Husband comes home from night shift and goes straight into shower because…Covid, toddler wakes up, convince toddler to stay upstairs long enough so I can make the bed, tidy up, and change her nappy and clothes, stop her from going downstairs alone, encourage her to help me tidy, proceed to pick up the cushions she’s thrown on the floor for the umpteenth time, pick up the hair clips and hair bands sprawled across the room, find dummies lost in the night…husband comes upstairs and toddler proceeds to scream and run into me numerous times, because…well its ‘fun’…convince toddler to go downstairs…refuses to be picked up, or to hold hand, slides down the stairs laughing while I hold my breath.
Go to the bathroom, toddler follows, husband starts on breakfast…toddler brushes teeth, and face, and sink, and throws brush in bath…then proceeds to cry as she wants me to get said toothbrush…while I’m mid-pee on the loo…clean up, wash hands, wash her toothbrush to put away…toddler cries, she wants her toothbrush back as she’s not done…wash her face, and give up on mine, walk out of bathroom…encouraging her to follow…she’s still crying about the toothbrush.
Breakfast made, toddler strapped in chair, CBeebies on play…husbands making our breakfast, toddler wants iPad, CBeebies isn’t what she wants to watch, coasters on the floor, asks for magnets on the fridge, makes a tower, magnets thrown across the table for ‘fun’, wants stickers, there are no stickers, toddler still would like stickers and keeps asking and pointing, there are no stickers…distract toddler with breakfast, she replies with a ‘no’ and asks for water instead, takes one sip…proceeds to pour the rest of the water on the table, and now needs a cloth to clean up the table, and then cleans her faced, and while listening to a song about washing hands, decides she now needs to wash hers…husband sits down and toddler starts to eat breakfast, and then refuses, and then restarts, and then misses Elmo, go to find Elmo, decides Elmo is no longer of interest, and requests a reading book, get a reading book and apparently its the wrong one…husband convinces toddler that the food is delicious and they don’t need another book…she takes the iPad…and keeps changing between the shows, not watching anything longer than a few seconds at a time…I get two minutes to go to the bathroom to wash my face and brush my teeth, hear a loud scream, and then tears…rush out to find out what’s happened, she wants Elmo again, and her food is on the floor.
Look at the time, its a work day, I have a meeting, take water upstairs as there’s no time to sit and eat breakfast anymore. Hear laughter, and giggles, and tears and tantrums, and calls for mum, and a husband desperately trying to convince said toddler that mum will be back soon…all during my video call…then there is a moment of silence, maybe everything is fine downstairs, I should really be focussing on this meeting, decisions need to be made, oh wait she’s asking for stickers again, husband doesn’t understand what she’s asking for, try to telecommunicate with husband…they’re going out for a walk instead…hear her laughing and screaming through the house, her jackets on, but now she needs another nappy change, and she’s refusing to take off her jacket because she assumes that means she’s no longer going out…meeting ends, come downstairs to help, finally toddler cleaned up and strapped into pushchair, she waves goodbye and blows kisses, husband is going to do the shopping to give me time to work…
Get a call, walk past cold breakfast, and back upstairs to my desk, simultaneously answer emails, student support workshop online starts, teach, deal with student queries, provide extra time slots for help and support with assignments that can’t be done as was intended because…Covid, others need extra support due to change in personal circumstances, one requests to speak to me after the session, ask all students to exit from the session so I can speak to said student. 3 students don’t leave the meeting, and don’t answer when I ask if they can still hear me, type messages to these students to ask them to turn off their video calls, 1 apologises and signs off, another one follows, third student nowhere to be seen, their mic is switched on, can hear them in the background…send email to student, and another 7 messages, finally he signs off, and I can speak to the student who had an issue. Mid-conversation, another student dials in and asks what time the workshop is, the workshop has ended, there is no more workshop, apologises, stays in meeting, proceed to sending him 3 messages and calling his name multiple times to ask him to exit from the video call, 3 minutes later he signs out…deal with issue at hand. More emails, another meeting is scheduled soon, maybe I can eat breakfast, hear the front door…
Toddler comes running in, and wants to help empty shopping bags, and brings item to kitchen, placing them on the floor, on the chair, on the table, in the passage, decides she wants to eat the onions she sees, really wants to eat the onions, gets distracted when she sees her Elmo who gets extra hugs, doesn’t want to take off her jacket or hat, runs around the house laughing while husband chases her to take off her jacket, she trips and bumps her head, cries and wants hugs, shopping is still all over the kitchen. Feed her lunch, and try to keep her interested for longer than a few minutes on the food. Food pieces all over the floor, iPad is on again and Bing is on. He has a balloon, so now she needs a balloon, oh wait his balloon has popped, toddler proceeds to cry because its popped. She asks for stickers…we have stickers…lifesaver husband bought some while he was out! Plays with stickers. Time for a nap…make a bottle, toddler doesn’t want a nap or husband to take her upstairs, we both go, runs around the bedroom as she doesn’t want a nappy change, or to change into PJs, sees computer is switched on so takes the mouse and keyboard to do some ‘work’… presses keys and multiple menus open, I have a tutorial soon, I panic, forget to save documents and switch off computer, take my notes downstairs to work from the iPad, toddler crying for me, husband convinces her to get into bed to sleep, he falls asleep too.
Breakfast..? Lunch? Sit down to eat, no time for anything else as tutorial starts with student
More emails, troubleshooting, iPad not allowing documents to open fast enough, internet connection slows down, give up and start working from phone using personal data as WiFi is giving me issues and testing my patience.
Hear tiny feet scrambling down the stairs, toddler walks in, wants hugs and to eat, doesn’t want a shower or to change clothes, doesn’t want to change her nappy, is grumpy and teary, and still yawning, decides she wants to play with her blocks. Gets bored of blocks and decides she needs to brush her teeth, so she takes us both to the bathroom, brushes her teeth and shows us how good she is at it, happily gets into bath, I leave to get her clothes and tidy the bedroom again, return and she’s refusing to get out of the bath, she doesn’t want the bubbles to stop. Husband convinces her to get out of bath, and now she doesn’t like her favourite jumper, doesn’t want to wear socks, runs out of bathroom with wet hair and one sock on, and is hungry.
Strapped in chair, comb and dry hair, put on other sock, start preparing dinner, husband puts on washing load, Monday night is his weekend and so it’s take-away night. We order food, and sit as a family for dinner. No energy to think, but still answering all her questions to keep her entertained between bites of food, whilst also replying to emails that have been coming in, all seemingly urgent. Counting down the hours until bedtime, dinner is finished so husband washes up, toddler decides she needs to take out plates from the cupboard, I clean the floor and mop the downstairs, toddler wants to help so pushes the mop with me, making it take twice as long, but she’s having fun.
Reading time, toddler not interested, decides she needs to play the running game, and wants us to also play and screams of laughter ensue, now decides we need to play with all the cuddly toys in the drawer, proceeds to empty the drawer and make a pile on my husbands foot, as the toys begin to fall she decides to instead play ‘catch’ so throw the toys up in the air and across the room and laughs, we start to talk, she doesn’t want us to, so interrupts us, sentences are left incomplete, stories untold, we give in and just play, and dance, and test each other’s patience. Toddler has her milk, wants to play with her blocks, pulls me to the mat too, we build towers, and then knock them over, again and again, and again…she’s still full of energy, husband starts to get things ready for bedtime, we all go upstairs because she doesn’t want to go with only one of us, gets ready for bed, decides she wants Elmo, I come back down to find Elmo, go back up and she’s running around in only her vest, suddenly decides she doesn’t want me to put her to bed and blows kisses and says goodnight.
Tidy up toys and put away dried washing load, empty bins, go to the bathroom, somehow had forgotten to go during the day, prepare for meeting and documents needed for teaching later on in the week. Find all the snacks. Husbands fallen asleep again too. Fox starts howling in the side street as per usual.
Do a nappy change, head to bed, fall asleep mid-scrolling. 6 hours until we have to do it all over again…its only Tuesday…!
Sending positivity to all those juggling parenting, home schooling, and working from home, all during lockdown in the current pandemic 💖